And I was referring to the PAX217 song, not the song from Night at the Roxbury, though I know everyone is currently bobbing their heads to the side. (Baby, don't hurt me...No more...)
Perhaps I've finally read too many Facebook Bumper Stickers that swoon over Edward Cullen being the new ideal of romance. Maybe it's just that Valentine's Day is coming up. It could be a combination of both, but I really think it's just the first one. Because, seriously, it disturbs me that girls think a creepy, glittering in the sun, watching you while you sleep, treating you like crap because he can't "control" himself around you, following you home and down dark alleys weirdo like Edward Cullen is what a really romantic guy should be.
FALSE!
While we're at it, people should really stop idolizing Romeo and Juliet. They were stupid, hormonal teenagers who KILLED THEMSELVES at the end of the play! Death is NOT romantic, and you can't express your love when you're DEAD.
Just thought I'd mention.
Someone once said, "Everyone always says that you have to be willing to die for whom/what you love. I say, wouldn't it be better to live for them?" It's about time someone said it! (If only I could remember where I heard that; I could give him/her proper credit!) This whole culture of dying-for-love needs to stop. I suppose it is a noble gesture, but it certainly should NOT be the primary indicator of your devotion to someone. And this isn't just a Romeo and Juliet thing! I heard an interview with the girl who played Bella in Twilight (*vomit*) where she said, "The important thing is that Edward and Bella are willing to die for each other."** Well, that's all well and good, but what will you do for each other when one of you is dead? I'm with whoever that was--it's better to live for the one you love.
And then there's that stupid line from Love Story: "Love means never having to say you're sorry." I remember once at a Mass where the priest totally called the movie out on this: "I disagree! Love is always having to say you're sorry!" And he went on a funny little rant for awhile: Sorry that I never do the dishes, sorry that I leave the toilet seat up, sorry that I always change the channel when you're watching...But in a way it is, isn't it? Not because you always screw over the people you love, but because we're human and, in spite of all our best efforts, well, you'll inevitably have something to apologize for. Sorry I was late. Sorry I couldn't be there for you. Sorry I said those things. Sorry I messed up.
What they should've said was: "Love means having the courage to say you're sorry, and the strength not to do it again."
I love that 1 Corinthians 13:4...Everyone seems familiar with the first bit: "Love is patient, love is kind." It goes on: "Love is not jealous. Love does not brag and is not arrogant." Translated: Love is trust. Love is humility. The first one is rather obvious, but the second one can be puzzling. There's nothing wrong with shouting your emotions from the rooftops, provided you don't do it the Tom Cruise way via jumping on couches on Oprah. Because then everyone will think you're a nutter. That's not what it means by bragging. What I think it means, anyway, is that you should love without show, without bravado, and just love with the whole of your heart. You may not shower your significant other with gifts and dinners at fancy places all the time, but they know where you stand because you're there and you show them.
As far as my crusade against the Edward Cullen Ideal...Ladies...You're worth MORE than a stalker covered in body glitter! You want someone who's up front with you and talks with you and lets you know where he stands, not someone who avoids you and keeps secrets and hides himself, even if it's "for your own good," because he knows that you're the best judge of what's for your own good. You want someone who, uh, doesn't follow you home at night and watch you sleep through your bedroom window. That, I'd have to say, is pretty essential.
So I'm hoping that didn't get too cheesy. I promise I won't post one of these everyday until Valentine's Day.
~The Original Fong~
**You wish you could pull off being me**
**I actually walked out of the Borders that was playing the behind-the-scenes footage where I heard this. The actress was saying, "Bella's sort of a damsel in distress, but it's not like she..." Then she paused, as if she knew what she was about to say was a complete lie, then said that stupid thing about dying for each other. I couldn't take it...
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i just wanted to say: so true! thats what i thought all the time. after "titanic", after "romeo and juliet" after "every bollywood film in which someone dies (- and there are way too much to quote, so sorry for that)" - just stop killing yourself, its just being too frightened to live. thats what we discussed in school when we did a-levels (i'm in germany, so thats probably a bit different from your school) and we had to read 4 book who where about self justice. very famous books. and we made a discussion about the book "the robbers" from schiller (what a stupid translation, the robbers, honestly! i wouldnt EVER read a book called the robbers...) and the "hero" dies and his brother dies too. but theres a very important difference. the borther has done very evil egoistic things and in the end he realizes it and out of shame and sigust he killes himself. the "hero" also realizes that he did wrong things but instead of killing himself - which was likely in his situation - he gives himself to a poor man so he can deliver him to the police and get the head money for him. and i think thats how it should end. he does not end his live fearing the pain and the decision of the court. he gives himself to the justice of the state and besides he helps a poor man and keeps up his ideals. its great. and even if there was a lovestory, he didnt kill himself because of her and she was killed by him because she rather wanted to die than live a life all alone (because she does not have any family and was raised by his father who is also dead in the end) or something like this, i dont quite remember that part so well^^"
what i actually wanted to say is: suicide is just being a coward an not facing the consequences of your own doing (mostly) or not getting the situation in your hands and changing something! its being a coward and weak. dying is easy compared to living. so you are aboslutely right: live for your beloved one!
Oh, shut up about Romeo & Juliet. I happen to be a 13-year-old girl. I have been reading 5 million page fiction novels since I was about 6. I loved your post on Twilight and thought it was hilarious (been there, done that, hated it, and probably would have ritually burned the book if it wasn't my cousin's.) But I just finished reading Romeo & Juliet in my English class, and I LOVED it. Twilight is one thing, but Shakespeare is another. I'll agree that it's not one of his best works, but SERIOUSLY! Yes, the movie was stupid (especially the newer version...we watched it in class...ewwww...)but NOT the PLAY! And even less so when we saw it in live theater!!! So just appreciate the great literature, okay? Sorry. Done ranting now.
Okay, little girl, I posted your comment because I do welcome opposing points of view, however, I please request that you do NOT tell me what "great literature" is. I majored in English in college; I studied Shakespeare in London; I acted on the Globe stage--yeah, the one in London. I think I have a handle on Shakespeare, so please trust that my opinion on Romeo on Juliet is quite informed. Thank you.
You have officially earned my respect.
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